RHYTHM

The making of Nkatekos Shabangu's wedding After running around for the whole day from 7:00 am Sifiso Sithole made sure that he gets all the proper things like glasses, draping and many more things that are needed are all gathered and in one place, being the wedding planner and all, everything was made wonderfully but in all perfect things the are prologs and epilogs. The is always a preparation process to go through before the actual wedding ceremony. During the evening we encountered challanges. He starts with William the writer at Hlogi's Word's, they started preparing at 11:14 pm at the beautiful place villa Africa In pretoria. Everything started all smooth and we actualLy thought that we were going to do everything properly And without any fuss and fight, but written bellow are some of the challenges that we faced. Challenge number 1 There are only 7 table Cloths and the vila only opens at 6am to give us what we need, they did not give us what we needed on time now we a

VERSE I lift my eyes to see Your face I know my help is in Your Name In everything Held by hands Of mercy I will run and not grow weary I will rise in God my strength My heart will trust For all my hope Is Christ alone CHORUS Now my soul sings Your love it knows no end Your love it knows no end Your love it knows no end VERSE I will love for You have loved I will forgive as You forgive Your love prevails You fill my life With hope again BRIDGE You reign forever You reign forever You are the light unto this world>

I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear. He also wrote... The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy. Martin Luther King, Jr. I have an enlightenment filled with wisdom, that love shows a correct way for a person to choose. In that path lies wisdom, In  that path lies knowledge, and In  that path lies maturity. I have learned that without love then what we do for people is pointless. Love rules over all things. Today I write to encourage African people to love one another,  stop the hating, killing and fighting instead they should love. Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into friend. Martin Luther King, Jr. Love motivates people to help and care for one another. We got used to fighting and hatig each other as African people that we overlook the fact that in this world if we do not stand with each other then we fail to

#Black Mentality Black Nation arises, arise and prosper 'Apartheid has left us with no hope for the future,' so we say. Introduction  We were taught to depend on white people, we were taught that we are too stupid to be leaders or too dumb to be successful. We have learned from the old white generation, that South Africa will be a deserted place with broken dreams and nothing to live for when black people will be set free, the same white generation has killed and murdered many black people, by so doing they automatically thought that they had power over black people even to this day many white people would expect to be respected highly when they walk in and black people are there. Black people rather, we are taught to fear white people, we were taught by our fathers, mothers, and brothers that white people have destroyed our lives to a point that until we all die and the world comes to an end black people will be working for white people. A few days ago I had an epi

I had a conversation with a friend of mine and we were talking about what the deacon of the church bought and how it made commotion in the church. Deacon A decon bought two cameras in the church and tv screens for almost all rooms in the church.  The cameras were meant to show people who are in any room of the church what was happening in the service is going on, at that moment. The deacon's intention is to make everything convenient,  even though the cameras are for filming and not good quality. But his intention was good, his intention was to make sure the word is heard by everyone in the church. Friend Change is not a problem but how change is brought then it can be problematic. When he bought those cameras we saw a great improvement but he looked down on protocol and went passed it like he was above it. We need a generation that understands that they are not above the law, constitution and protocol, as much as other are obliged to follow it they too should know that they

When it comes to relationships making selfish decisions is not a bad a idea most especially when  it comes to major decisions. Sometimes we are given an opportunity to explore our hope dreams and visions for our lives and look at our relationships and come up with a conclusion either we still want to date this person or not. Our problem as people lie on exalting our partners dreams, visions, need and wants far beyond ours, we put them first that we even forget what we want in life. We are a generation of bliss but bliss comes with a responsibility and hard work, we need to be faithful to ourselves,  we need to be selfish and think for us that them.We shouldn't have sex and go out or stay home because that's what our partners want but we should have the freedom to do what we want for ourselves. I had a conversation with the person I am dating because I  belived that I had to speak in order to heal, because I was becoming depressed and unsettled,  I also started feeling like ou

I have an illumination, We were not created to  be black or white but to be human. Skin color should not matter, in the past people died because of the color of their skin, today pepple are judged  because of the color of their skin. Nothing has ever changed, African people suffered around the globe but when we got liberated we started judging white people, maybe it makes us sleep better at night because we think they deserve it, has anything changed?  From what I have been taught we should not judge people according to their color but their character. Yet as Africans internationally we judge each other and we judge white people according their skin color. 20 years of democracy, we celebrate and throw huge parties and that's fine but the next day when interviewed you hear a politician talking about white people owning the land and we should take it back as Africans people, there is no peace in the world because of racism. Life is not getting better but worse because white people

Miss Anonymous: Hi Hlogi, I dont know if you help out all people but I sent you an inbox because I want to know if he will marry me. Hlogi: I am not a psychologist or a sexologist but I am a pastor and writer. Miss Anonymous: I know but I saw you post where you helped out the lady who wanted to mary a black guy, I thought that you can help me. Hlogi: ok tell me whats up! Miss Anonymous: I have been dating a guy called themba at my church, we have been seeing each other for two years now and I love him. We always have sex and sometimes I feel like thats all that he wants I feel like he is using me. I really think that we are going to get married because he promised me, but it seems like we only have sex when we meet. I want to know, is he going to marry me? Hlogi: When do you see him? Anonymous: Weekends. Hlogi: Does he tell you that he needs you nd he would love to hold and touch you whe  he calls? Anonymous: Yes, most especially when we havent seen each other for a week. Hlog

Miss Anonymous: Listen I have no where to go these holidays. Hlogi: What happened to your house with your family. Miss Anonymous: My Parents disowned me. Hlogi: What happened,  what did you do for them to use such hurtful words. Miss Anonymous: I'm with a black guy and planning on marrying him. Hlogi: Oh gosh...uhm ok. Listen go home, make peAce with your family then think about marriage. Deciding to marry with that kind of family issue is not a good idea. 1. Go home and love on your family. 2. Give them Time to digest that you want to marry. 3. Give them Time to digest that you are with a black guy. 4. Collect your thoughts and dont sell yourself cheap cause if you follow him, without your families blessing then you are not going to get far. Because there will be no family support. 5. Go back to them and say mom, dad, I love him and I am not leaving to marry him unless you bless us. 6. If they say no, give them abit more time.  And treat them like nothing happened unti

I read a book a while ago and this man contends that as people we love to shy away from subjects that have sex in them. I am a young pastor and in my walk with Christ i met this family that treats me like one of their own family members. Since i have met this family, i started seeing and understanding that Christians always avoid the topic of sex. Might be sex in marriage/any type of relationships because they are afraid that young people would go and try to experience what they are talking about. I believe that the church should exhausts the topic of sex because people should understand that sex is only good when we do it in the boundaries of marriage. I have grown to understand that if we do not teach people that are married that Love and Respect in a relationship is more important than sex, then people will understand that sex is just another blessing from God because sex was never meant to be the key thing  in a relationship but it was meant to be the cherry on top. We need

I have always hated these rules that people make regarding women's sexuality, how they should protect themselves from bad men. Now I know, I know that it makes sense to protect yourself as a woman. In this day and age good men are hard to find most especially in church, corporate world and among friends. I have been reading a book by Steve Harvey 'act like a lady and think like a man' our of that I have learned that all men are bad with no doubthe presented his case and now he speaks about women closing the cookie. He speaks bout three ninety day rule. And I admire that but I still contend that women should hide their cookies until marriage, once you open up to a guy and give him the cookie then he might not marry you. We need to understand that relationships in this day and age are complicated,  and if you give what is suppose to be hide then you stand a chance of not getting what you always wanted. In this day and age we (man and woman) always focus on making others hap

Man's needs are easy to be met, yet I encourage people always to find themselves in their husbands or boy friends dream. In most cases women support, love and have sex with their spouse's because they are willing but some do it because they have found themselves in spouse's dreams and visions. What a man need every women can supply it. I have met different men who allways say the same thing women are the same and I always disagree, yet again I met ladies who thought men are the same, which I also disagreed.  Many people always assume that people are the same and they do not realize that when you assume that people are the same you are implying that their needs are the same. Let's look into this. Women want a guy who can go with them to buy grocery but other women are too busy in the corporate world to get a man walk with them to buy grocery, instead they need a women who can give them good sex. Others do not want sex and to go to grocery store they only want intimac

This morning I have to say, it is great to be a man in this day and age. I have grown to understand that inspite of what men go through to get married and love their spouse's, or even though their spouse's are the ones who did wrong, we are still the ones to be hated. From a young age we were taught by our parents to be real men who don't hurt women but there are women who still consider men wrong. Love has no value when the man is the only one loving and the wife is giving up but it has value when the woman is loving and the man is not. Yes I agree there are bad men out there but not all men are bad. I have heard many saying regarding men:- Men are dogs, Men are pigs, Men only care about themselves, Men only want sex. "For man, it's less complicated: he liked what he saw from across the room and now he's going to go over there and get it. He doesn't care anything about your personality or what you do for a living; your friends mean nothing to him, a