Relationship (<Intimacy & Romance>) Feat Bongi & Collin Damans

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What is a relationship without intimacy and romance?

Take a second to think about your relationship and what you have went through with that man or woman, do not think your better than him/her but think about the whole relationship.

NOW YOU CAN ANSWER!

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Remember when we were kids, we would play house. There would be the father and mother also kids, boyfriend and girlfriend,  there wouldn't be any romantic kiss because you would be disgusted by it, a relationship without intimacy and romance is a total bore because there is nothing new to expect from your partner. A relationship without these two elements is just two people playing house.

INTIMACY:-

Bondi & Collin contend "Not only do people shy away from talking about sex, but also there are married couples who have never discussed their sex life with each other...No one is a sex expect, because sexual fulfilment varies from individual to individual,  oversimplifying it, is what often leads to frustration and resentment."

They continue...

"We believe that this is something a husband should have at the fore of his mind always; to bring happiness to the wife he has married. Finally, sexual intimacy is not about sexual intercourse,  you can achieve sexual intimacy by learning to touch each other. Notice that we said 'touch each other.' Holding hands is not something husbands must do to their wives; it is something they must both do to and for each other"

Intimacy is not about sex, intimacy is about the small things that couples over look, it is all about that 5 min that we spend talking about nothing important but we enjoy it, it is about walking in public holding hands and making each other smile, it is about making sure that joy, peace and love reigns in the relationship. We need to go back to the times where money was never an issue but the only thing that we cared about is being together.

ROMANCE:-

Bongi & Collin contend "Romance is often lost in our busy routines and this is not good considering that this is one of the aspects of your marriage that you should be living out on a daily basis. Romance should not be something that only happens just once a year on Valentine's Day - it is a priority. Many of us are not naturally romantic but we have good news for you...YOU CAN ALWAYS LEARN! Romance is defined as a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love. Where there is love between husband and wife, there should be romance. We tried our best to be romantic in the beginning of our marriage but when we had our kids, our attention was shifted to what we thought was more important. We started observing other seasoned couples and discovered that it is not the 'over-the-top things' that are romantic but the 'small though-out things' that will leave your spouse swept of their feet. While it is good to splash out on romance once in a while, sometimes the little you can do could be the best."

Romance to young people has become the last things that is important in a relationship,  we always assume if we buy things for our partners we think that is being romantic. We need to make time in this busy world to go out with our partners or give them massages, breakfast in bed etc.

As we were growing up we were talking about how we want to propose and how we want to treat our spouse's with romance and love but we do not not do it because our focus has shifted. We need to wake up, shake up, and get romantic before we lose out on the best things in out relationship.

In my diary this morning I want to say, intimacy and romance compliment each other and without both of them in your relationship then either you are going to lose your partner or your relationship will depend on sex.

We need intimacy and romance in our relationships to save them, because in this day and age divorce is a norm and broken relationships are a norm.

LET US BE A GENERATION OF CHANGE, A GENERATION THAT GOES ALL OUT FOR OUR RELATIONSHIPS.

I am William Seitshiro and this is my diary.

Facebook page: William 'Lehlohonolo' Seitshiro ///'a writers & a pastor's bible'\\\

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