BROKEN PIECES

People who follow me know that i learn something new everyday. well once again i have learned something new again, love can either leave you broken or in love.

We, and by we i refer to both male and female, we always look at the bad side of thing. When you get an opportunity to work somewhere out side your country you think of dying by plane crash or missing your family, also when it comes to love we think about 40% of the people in your country that are hurting and dying because of love. One thing i have learned about love is that we should never take it for granted because it can either leave you in love or broken into pieces. How them should we see love as people? You ask.

Well you know that i am the most open columnist/writer because i tell you about peoples experiences and my experiences. 

I have learned from the past weekend that love was given to us so that we can love, so that we can be joyful always, love was given to make life easier by focusing on the positive side of a person than what he has done in the past. Yes! Sometimes we think we are perfect and we can love and make people love us but love is not about that. Love is about trying and trying again until you get it right in your relationship. My sister who got married two or three years ago told me that they used to break up a lot of times but they couldn't live without each other.

Today we have been left in broken pieces because love has been used against us. What do i mean? People take advantage of how people love them so that they can have sex with them or get what they want. I once met a lady when i was working at a guest house, who is rich, but shes also oversize well doctors told her its because of too much stress and all but she told me something that night when i met her and she seemed to be content with it. She said she realized that her husband married her for her money, she even knows the sexy lady her husband is sleeping with.

How then should we balance between the two, being in desperate need of this love and knowing that someone is taking advantage of you. I interviewed a lady recently, actually wanted some advice she was telling me how much the boyfriend ignores her call, and when she took my advice of ignoring him for a week he went back running after two day saying his sorry but i don't buy it. She loves this man and if this man loves her back don't you think he was never going to do what he did? Or maybe lets just say e needed a wake up call.

I once wrote an article on the subject 'the painful longing for luscious love' and i said...

I have realized that most of the times people that get hurt are the people that are looking for love or waiting for love. When you look for love many men and women come and go, they have sex with you and they destroy you then after they leave you. When you wait for love different people approach you because of your good looks and you end up thinking it's the right person and you end up settling for second best, only to find they are with you because of title and position. We all have a painful longing, we crave for, desire and need love now and we feel like if we got it then we will get married and have a wonderful life without worry. We feel like if it were to happen to us that we get what we desire (love) that all heaven will be for us. Yet it's painful because we never get it, we never get the chance to get the right person or experience' This luscious love is an awesome kind of love that makes people melt in each other's arms but where can we find it today? The sweet love, the over rich love, the love that will make a relationship last for all eternity between two people. It's nowhere to be found, most possibly does not exist -others believe. 

Under the subject broken pieces i want to remind you of the articles that i used to write about making a selfish decision. Its better to him/her now and cry now than date, have sex or live with, and marry A person who careless about how you feel. And about who you are. Do not let your heart be hurt by another person who does not care about it.

My name is Hlogi and these are my words.