RHYTHM

“WHEN LOVE LEADS…” It is contagious isn’t it? The idea and the concept of love, it is remarkable.  I always say to some elders who inspired me and motivated me to get married that they lied to me. When my wife and I got married we didn’t foresee a lot of things. We didn’t foresee children, we didn’t foresee finances, most importantly we didn’t foresee the fact that we would have to work hard to keep our marriage healthy and going. When I look at these young couples holding hands, I smile but somewhere in the back of my mind I just think, ‘my wife and I used to do that’. Not to brag but my wife and I are a great couple, but somewhere somehow we relaxed. It is no longer contagious to us anymore, when people hold hands we’re not jealous, when people kiss were not jealous, and when people have babies we don’t envy them. We chose us, we do what we can, from love to fights, we do everything our way. One thing I love about my wife is that she never gives up, so that means we w...

 "LEARNING TO BE..." Meeting new people can be exhausting, we tend to change and adapt to the new environment, new people, and new personalities. Sometimes, when we have low self-esteem we find ourselves becoming different people from who people back at home know.  When my wife and I met, I started to notice that I was becoming different. Yes! love was the number one motivator. However, because of how beautiful my wife is, I found myself conflicted. I found myself trying to become the version of a boyfriend that she always wanted, instead of showing off who I truly am, I started to become a man I didn't know. Some people consider it growth when you adapt and change, yet sometimes just learning to be yourself can be the one thing you need. For instance, it is you heart, your passion, and hard work that got you the job you wanted. If you change and become whatever they want you to be, instead of being successful you will be depressed. While we were dating, I noticed that I ...

“RUNNING CAN BE A WASTE” Life is quite a funny long tale.  Waking up this morning the first thing I said to my wife was, good morning love. After I had said that, I recalled of the first time I said it. I also recalled how unromantic it was. I had just woken up with my wife on our honeymoon and I was just staring at her. Truly speaking, even now, I believe I have won a lottery. Found an amazing woman who loves me, who is beautiful, and has a beautiful heart. So, most of our bedtime routine was simple, she sleeps and I stare. When she woke up I gently said good morning. That good morning was a sign, a loud banner which was supposed to show her that she was about to have an amazing life with me. Saying I love you and learning how to show it is a long and tiring journey. I’d rather just walk. Of course, I want to take my time with those long kisses, long goodbyes, watching my daughter grow, seeing my wife mature, and saying good morning one more time. Love, life, problems, and solutio...

'SOMETIME IT DAWNS ON  ME' I woke up this morning and I realised that I caved. I shook my head looking at my daughter knowing very well that there isn’t any wish I could make, any hope I can desire to have, and anything I could ever do to turn the train cause in my heart of hearts I knew, I am blessed. Sometimes it feels like I am way over my head. Me, a husband, a father, and a mentor to some. I feel like someone will jump out of a bush and say "yes! I caught you'. Why? because my life is a series of happenstance that started from a broken and rejected place to being a husband, father, mentor. However, as I looked at her sleeping, with a corner of my eye I saw my wife staring. You see she thinks I don't know but I do know, were both in the same boat her and I. I tucked my daughter in her bed gently pretending not notice my wife. However I became curious as to how she was looking at me, so I turned and looked at her. That's when I confirmed and was convinced th...